Be angry but sin not

If we are patient in one moment of anger, we will escape a hundred days of sorrow.

Last evening, I spoke with someone who was meant to deliver a document for me and unfortunately the person did not go through with it despite telling me otherwise. I was so angry. The delay would cost me so my immediate reaction was to lash out and say exactly how I felt.

While I was gearing up with all the words I had in my head to send as sms, I felt a sudden need to put it off till later on. Maybe in a couple more hours , I will address it. Then I decided to take a stroll, Surprisingly, when I returned home, I didn’t feel so angry anymore.

It had completely deflated. I still needed to speak to the person but I am now level headed and calm to pass my message across without animosity.

I would have destroyed a good working relationship if I went ahead to react in my annoyance. And sadly, words when said cannot be taken back.

At that point, I learnt a valuable lesson; that it is all up to us. To tame our reactions when angry. We can do this. And how can we control our anger? By practising mindfulness. Yes, imbibing this simple but practical step will help us OWN our anger and manage it.

How many times have we let anger rule us and control our actions? Some of us might have destroyed potentially or existing great relationships, ruined opportunities because we could not think before reacting. It is possible to register our displeasure or dissatisfaction with a situation or person without irritation. How ? Before you speak, Breathe! For real. It is better not to respond at all than to react destructively.

The after effect of unrestrained anger is disastrous. The havoc cannot be reversed.

Is anger a sin? No. Anger in itself is not a sin. We all experience it from time to time. God put the emotion in us to use when necessary especially against injistice. It is okay to feel angry but what happens after is what matters most. Before we let a situation drive us to rage, we need to find out why we got offended and though there may be a justification to be angry, we can choose not to.

Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.

Proverbs 19:11 NLT

In some cases though, anger can spur us to a positive action in a situation. It is positive when we fixing or building up and negative when we tearing down someone or destroying things.

It is very important for us to pull the purse strings on our reactions. We communicate better and achieve good results when we are calm.

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.

James 1:19 NLT

There are times we cannot control situations that can aggravate us but we can manage our psychological and emotional response to the situation.

We also have to empathise with the other person as this reduces the velocity and weight of your rage.

Frequent outbursts of anger weakens our immune system overtime. You begin to experience symptoms like persistent headache, insomnia, high blood pressure, heart problems amongst many other illnesses. Howbeit we ravage our bodies by our own hands?

Sometimes, we use anger as a secondary emotion to mask feelings of fear, helplessness and vulnerability. We feel it would give us an edge rather than to show what we really feel. Showing anger makes us feel in control rather than weak. It is more convenient to be mad than cry.

The point is, it is pertinent to pinpoint the root cause of our explosive anger so we can effectively deal with it. Uncontrolled Outburst of anger is a fruit from a bad tree so we need to uproot it in order to take charge of our lives.

The scripture says we give room to the devil to operate when we are angry.

And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.

Ephesians 4:26‭-‬27 NLT

Lashing out or holding in your anger are both destructive. The best way is to find a healthy way to release. Know a method that works for you and practise it. It will get better with time. Do yourself a favour; Forgive offences , struggling to forgive? Here is why you must forgive .

Let go of grudges and you will be free.

I leave you with this scripture;

People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness.

Proverbs 14:29 NLT

In what ways have anger impacted your life and what changes do you know need to be made?

You are loved💕💕💕

Angel

62 thoughts on “Be angry but sin not

  1. Perth Girl says:

    Thankyou for sharing this. We all have moments when we get angry, but have to know to control it. Self control is one of the fruits of the Holy spirit and can be very much applied when our emotions get the better of us.

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  2. Ihagh G. T. says:

    a very touching and heartfelt post, especially as I relate to most of it…I have been controlling myself, but can only pray for more control in cases where I am overly provoked without me instigating provocation

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  3. jonicaggiano says:

    Great scripture and great advice. I have been guilty of loosing my temper and I always feel so badly right away. I pray for forgiveness and feel shame. God forgives me right away but forgiving myself can take many days. Thanks for this post. Wise words.

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  4. lindaswriting139996633 says:

    This was a great read. We all get hurt and we all feel anger at times. If we give ourselves time to recover and think things through, everything goes better. We cannot control the actions of others, but we can control our reaction to their behavior.Forgiveness is the antidote to the poison too much displaced anger can bring. In as much as we can, our Lord wants us to live in peace with one another.

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  5. fuelfortheraceblog says:

    Hi Angel. So true. I think if there’s a word to study that can change our lives and relationships, it’s “learn”. Perhaps an even greater word is, “re-learn”. I have found re-learning is so needed in my life. Your topic is spot-on. God’s grip to you. -Alan

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  6. Anne Copeland says:

    Some years ago, as I was studying to get a degree in criminal justice, I lived in a senior mobile home park where there was a LOT of drug activity. I took it upon myself to try to get it stopped because part of it was right next door to me, and there was drug manufacture involved, as well as human trafficking of young teenagers. The police did not do a lot. Here in California as I guess is true in a lot of other states now, the police are no longer jailing drug people, or if they do, it is for a very short time.

    To shorten the story somewhat, I ended up getting assaulted in that park, and then severely bullied by perhaps half the people in the park. At that time, I was in shock, for I always thought if we were trying to do good, things would work out. I moved away from there but retained a lot of anger because I had to lose my beautiful mobile home and I was angry that anyone would do such a terrible thing to another person. It happens every day, in every state, and I am sure in other countries as well.

    But after a time, I kept thinking about my anger for the things that happened to me, and I realized that life is full of often unfair or traumatic challenges. And gradually I realized that these things, though they seem dreadful at the time, are blessings from God. Think about it. Without having things happen in our lives, we would never learn compassion for others, and we would never learn how to develop understanding of our own selves as we do from going through these things. Our journey through life would not be as wonderful if we walked a flat plain on this earth as it is because there are valleys and mountains to travel. And also, once we have been through a problem and come out on the other side, if we ever encounter it again, it will not be a problem because we will know exactly what we need to do. Finally, God did not ever tell us that life would be easy. He did not have an easy life ever. He believed in what he was doing, and despite the cruelty and disbelief people showed in him, he spent his entire short life doing what was right for him, and in the end result, he died, not to become a martyr, but to help others to have the strength to do what they need to do in this life.

    Today I am 77 and will turn 78 in November. How has this experience changed me? First of all, I have looked at the reality of the world, and while I may not be able to stop drug activity or those involved with it, there are so many other things I can do and be successful. For example, after I got my degree, I realized I could become a mentor/advocate for juvenile delinquents. Now there I can have success realistically, and with less chances of getting hurt. And when I had cancer and realized I perhaps could not do that, I took training to be a court-appointed mentor/advocate for foster children. So in the end result, when we get angry at something negative that happens in our lives, we can turn that anger into something positive to help our communities and to help others in this world. Thank you very kindly.

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    • Musings&Roses says:

      Wow! Very insightful Ma’am. There are not very many people who convert their negative experiences into doing something good. I am sure many will learn from your experience. God bless you greatly💕💕💕

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  7. 🌸Faith and Family3🌸 says:

    I think we all know the feeling of anger at times, but we must all turn to Our Heavenly Father in those times and try not to act upon our anger because it gets us no where , and only makes the devil happy and when we are mad and miserable he he so happy ,so we must FIGHT FIGHT and turn to God when we feel the slightest angry and forgive the ones that made us angry and ask them to forgive us for being angry.. Us as humans are so easy anger if we let our guard down. We need to put on the full armour of God and prevail …

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  8. Nigerian Patriot says:

    No outburst of rage has ever earned me a positive point in life. I have learned that an expedient reaction is best. In practice, it takes patience, and understanding to build the required tolerance. It’s a life long work in progress, so I will add the lessons of this wonderful post to my archive of knowledge on anger management. Great thanks for sharing Angel.

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