“But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light.
“Once you had no identity as a people; now you are God’s people. Once you received no mercy; now you have received God’s mercy.”
1 Peter 2:9-10 NLT
One major resolution I made this year was to care less about what people would say and I must confess, this has been liberating more than I anticipated. I have been able to overcome boundaries set by this desire.
It is human nature to want everyone to like us but it is divine to seek the approval of God above every other thing. Chasing human approval means you care too much about the opinion of others and seek external validation to deem you worthy, fit, desirable. We forget what matters most- our identity in Christ Jesus.
Jesus knew who He was right before He kicked off His ministry which made Him deeply rooted when the attack of identity came.
It is impossible to please everybody. No matter what you do, there will still be ones who would think you didn’t smile enough, you weren’t polite enough, you didn’t do enough.
There would always be this tag of never enough labelled in you.
And guess what? You don’t have to let this get to you or cripple your movements.
There is nothing you would do that will make everyone like you and if they do, you should be worried!
“What sorrow awaits you who are praised by the crowds, for their ancestors also praised false prophets.”
Luke 6:26 NLT
Jesus came, did good deeds but some persons still didn’t like him and constantly challenged His authority.
Even on the day he healed a man with a diseased hand, they tried to trap him with his good deeds.
People may try to turn your good intentions against you and crucify you but you should remember it doesn’t matter what their opinion of you is. Jesus walked the same path.
Jesus meant nothing to them. They knew about His greatness, saw his good works and still sought to crucify Him because they couldn’t handle seeing someone doing something different as opposed to how they have been doing it. His anointing was too glorious to be compared in their little minds.
They couldn’t handle his compassion. It was unbearable to think he healed the same people they passed by every day.
People hate what they cannot understand so they hated Jesus, not for any crime of His but because His existence and operation flourished beyond their understanding.
Likewise, people may hate you and seek to drag you across the mud and slam you with false accusations in order to quench your fire and subdue your spirit because you carry the glory of a higher calling but you must not allow this to happen.
It tickles our flesh to be constantly affirmed by the wotld but the source of true joy lies deep within us. We draw Joy, approval from the well of salvation.
Of what use is human approval to our soul?
Let the world judge you
let them misunderstand you.
It is fruitless to fix their understanding of who you are and your calling. Jesus never tried to prove His worth. He knew, the world didn’t.
It could be the devil’s plan of sidetracking you from God’s will. Unconsciously, you may be limiting your effectiveness by relying on outside approval for every step you take. It might influence you to turn down opportunities because you are too worried about being the perfect person in the eyes of people.
When you’re motivated to achieve simply by the desire to impress others, you end up executing too much, laboured down by exhaustion, gettting overwhelmed with apprehension about your challenges, people-pleasing, inability to make time for yourself, and being a Yes -Man/Woman because you are unable to say no.
To live on the world’s approval is to die by their criticism.
There is a race we were called to run until the finish line. This overrides all.
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
Galatians 1:10 NIV
Strive to be a God pleaser, not a people pleaser. Jesus who knew no sin couldn’t please everyone how much more we to think we can achieve this.
What are the ways you can achieve this?
1. Discover yourself
When others’ acceptance of you impacts how you make decisions about where to spend your time, you lose awareness of what’s essential to your calling, , what motivates you, and what makes you fulfilled. You might feel stuck doing work that gives you no form of fulfilment, getting involved in activities you would rather not do, being in a relationship toxic to your wellbeing and drag on habits inimical to your progress.
If this rings home for you, it’s time for a proper reassessment of who you are and the purpose you are on earth for. Look within you, find The Gift and channel it to the executing of your earthly assignment.
Ask yourself reflective questions – Why are you here? What things do you place value on the most? What passion can you give up your night sleep for? How exactly should you spend your time?
Once you have answered this intrinsic questions with the help of the HolySpirt of course, every other thing around you would fall in place. The desire for external validation gradually curbs because the fire to do the will of God regardless of who approves would burn passionately within you. Ultimately, you actions would align with this path. And life would become less daunting, more fulfilling with lesser efforts.
2. Set boundaries
Know who you are listening and don’t hesitate to distance yourself from people who are determined to see you fail.
3. Be happy with your self.
Christ is happy with you. what is holding you back? Accept your shortcomings and utilize your strengths.
4. Be godly and immerse yourself in God’s word.
The more time you spend learning about the character of the Creator, the better you know your true self.
“But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit.”
1 Corinthians 6:17 NIV
It gives you assurance in times you are weak from criticism and give you the best definition of who you are always.
“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;”
Colossians 3:23 KJV
You are loved💜💚💙