“Be merciful just as your Father is merciful.”
Luke 6:36 GNB
Jesus was bruised. Beaten by the very people He helped. He healed their sick and raised their dead but when it came to time to reward him, they screamed give us Barnabas.
How could they be so ungrateful? A man who gave them his whole life? This bunch deserve no mercy. Yet, there He was, calm. It didn’t stop here, Jesus went ahead to pray on the cross, Father forgive them for they do not know what they do.
How could Jesus ask for mercy for the same people who subjected him to pain and ridicule and nailed him to the cross?
But here He was, pleading to the Father on their behalf, without an apology or remorse. He showed mercy.
Jesus taught us that most times when people hurt us or behave in certain ways, they don’t know better. They are stuck in the pit of their ignorance. Broken people break others. Unhappy people would always try to make others unhappy. People who have no love in them would ruthlessly deal with you.
But Understand this, in this world, people would hurt you. Most people are self-focused anyway so their actions may be a reflection of themselves not you. And 95% of the time, these people are operating from a place of hurt, pain.
Ultimately, we cannot hold a grudge over their heads because we know better. We know the scripture entreats us to make allowances for the fault of others.
I am not saying you should give people the liberty to walk all over you. No. But when they offend you, if you approach it from a place of empathy, you would be more likely to release your forgiveness.
Are they really the kind of person to mean to insult you? From what you know of them, could their violent behaviour be a result of a personal issue? What else have they dealt with today? maybe they are having a bad day.
Let it go because they do not know what they do. They may not even understand the depth of pain they might have caused you.
Apostle Paul referred to this here – And now, my fellow-Israelites, I know that what you and your leaders did to Jesus was due to your ignorance.”
Acts 3:17 GNB
Ever since I started viewing offences through this lens, It became easier to let go. And I felt at peace more. It does not justify their actions but it would release me from the burden of pain, sadness and depression.
Offences would come, best believe. people would get on your nerves, push your buttons. Please don’t take the bait every single time.
As believers, We operate from a place of love, peace, kindness, gentleness, long-suffering, so we can decide not to take it personally. It is not you. It is not about your worth. Their actions cannot diminish you. It is them. Hurtful people are cruel and would try to feed you poison with their words or action. But you can choose not to drink from their cup of bitterness. They serve you from a low place. please don’t go there with them.
Sometimes, in their heads, they would justify their actions. They would probably believe you deserve it and would never offer an apology. Still, don’t take it personally. Make peace with the understanding that the apology you are waiting on may never come.
It may seem hard because an apology might have offered you a form of closure. But the only closure you need is to know your heart is aligned with God’s word and you are on the right path.
Remember that God cares about your heart—and the heart of those who hurt you. Ask God to help you love those who’ve hurt you. You don’t have to be their friend—but God does call you to let offences go.
Protect your peace. Protect your heart. Be rest assured, the moment you let go, you would find true peace.
I end with these verses, think on it;
“Be tolerant with one another and forgive one another whenever any of you has a complaint against someone else. You must forgive one another just as the Lord has forgiven you.”
Colossians 3:13 GNB
“And when you stand and pray, forgive anything you may have against anyone, so that your Father in heaven will forgive the wrongs you have done.””
Mark 11:25 GNB
It is well with you.
You are Loved💜💛💙