-Don’t take it to heart-

“Be merciful just as your Father is merciful.”
‭‭Luke‬ ‭6:36‬ ‭GNB‬‬

Jesus was bruised. Beaten by the very people He helped. He healed their sick and raised their dead but when it came to time to reward him, they screamed give us Barnabas.

How could they be so ungrateful? A man who gave them his whole life? This bunch deserve no mercy. Yet, there He was, calm. It didn’t stop here, Jesus went ahead to pray on the cross, Father forgive them for they do not know what they do.

How could Jesus ask for mercy for the same people who subjected him to pain and ridicule and nailed him to the cross?

But here He was, pleading to the Father on their behalf, without an apology or remorse. He showed mercy.

Jesus taught us that most times when people hurt us or behave in certain ways, they don’t know better. They are stuck in the pit of their ignorance. Broken people break others. Unhappy people would always try to make others unhappy. People who have no love in them would ruthlessly deal with you.

But Understand this, in this world, people would hurt you. Most people are self-focused anyway so their actions may be a reflection of themselves not you. And 95% of the time, these people are operating from a place of hurt, pain.

Ultimately, we cannot hold a grudge over their heads because we know better. We know the scripture entreats us to make allowances for the fault of others.

I am not saying you should give people the liberty to walk all over you. No. But when they offend you, if you approach it from a place of empathy, you would be more likely to release your forgiveness.

Are they really the kind of person to mean to insult you? From what you know of them, could their violent behaviour be a result of a personal issue? What else have they dealt with today? maybe they are having a bad day.

Let it go because they do not know what they do. They may not even understand the depth of pain they might have caused you.

Apostle Paul referred to this here – And now, my fellow-Israelites, I know that what you and your leaders did to Jesus was due to your ignorance.”
‭‭Acts‬ ‭3:17‬ ‭GNB‬‬

Ever since I started viewing offences through this lens, It became easier to let go. And I felt at peace more. It does not justify their actions but it would release me from the burden of pain, sadness and depression.

Offences would come, best believe. people would get on your nerves, push your buttons. Please don’t take the bait every single time.

As believers, We operate from a place of love, peace, kindness, gentleness, long-suffering, so we can decide not to take it personally. It is not you. It is not about your worth. Their actions cannot diminish you. It is them. Hurtful people are cruel and would try to feed you poison with their words or action. But you can choose not to drink from their cup of bitterness. They serve you from a low place. please don’t go there with them.

Sometimes, in their heads, they would justify their actions. They would probably believe you deserve it and would never offer an apology. Still, don’t take it personally. Make peace with the understanding that the apology you are waiting on may never come.

It may seem hard because an apology might have offered you a form of closure. But the only closure you need is to know your heart is aligned with God’s word and you are on the right path.

Remember that God cares about your heart—and the heart of those who hurt you. Ask God to help you love those who’ve hurt you. You don’t have to be their friend—but God does call you to let offences go.

Protect your peace. Protect your heart. Be rest assured, the moment you let go, you would find true peace.

I end with these verses, think on it;

“Be tolerant with one another and forgive one another whenever any of you has a complaint against someone else. You must forgive one another just as the Lord has forgiven you.”
‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3:13‬ ‭GNB‬‬

“And when you stand and pray, forgive anything you may have against anyone, so that your Father in heaven will forgive the wrongs you have done.””
‭‭Mark‬ ‭11:25‬ ‭GNB‬‬

It is well with you.

You are Loved💜💛💙

Angel

22 thoughts on “-Don’t take it to heart-

  1. Perth Girl says:

    It is a good perspective to have and view through the lens you mentioned. It definitely would help to let go.
    Forgiveness helps us not hold onto anger and bitterness in our heart and it opens a way for Gods to heal the hurt and help us move forward.
    Blessings Angel 💙

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  2. davidsdailydose says:

    There are several powerful thoughts in your post, Angel. I kept stopping to write them down!

    Make allowances for the faults of others. It’s not you; it’s not about your worth. The only closure I need? My heart is aligned with God and I am on the right path.

    It’s easy (for me) to feel responsible for the behavior and/or reactions of others. The truth is it may have nothing to do with me.

    One of my favorite quotes by the late Ruth Bader Ginsberg (US Supreme Court Justice):

    “When a thoughtless or unkind word is spoken, best tune out.”

    Thank you for such helpful words, Angel! Blessings.

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  3. ropheka says:

    The thing that bothers me about Jesus saying forgive them Father for they do not know what they are doing is when Christians take that to mean we are to forgive others regardless of whether they are repentant.
    Jesus said to forgive because they do not know what they are doing refers to the Romans. They did not know who Jesus was.
    As far as the scribes and Pharisee’s are concerned they knew exactly what they were doing. Read Josephus’ account of what happened to them.
    Yes, we are to forgive but that does not mean we are to allow others to use us as a door mat. The Bible says that we are to hold them accountable. If they refuse to repent ( which means admit what you did, admit it was wrong, ask for forgiveness, compensate where necessary and stop the offensive behavior ) then we are to have nothing to do with them.

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    • Musings&Roses says:

      Stephen prayed the same prayer for the Jews just before he died. The people who lied against him and set him up.
      And still, though the prayer of Jesus is to the Romans, they were adults. They knew it is morally wrong to kill someone just because you didn’t agree with them or felt threatened by them. So yes, in terms of judgement, they knew. What they didn’t know is He was the Messiah.
      Sometimes people may not be show repentance. When people don’t understand the gravity of their offence or even have the responsibility to, they would not
      feel bad about their offence.

      So expecting people to be repentant every time before you let go of the offence is a long stretch. we all know that won’t happen.

      Forgiveness does not also mean reconciliation. We can forgive people but not reconcile with them. For example, someone stole your money, you can forgive them but won’t let them near your money next time.
      And forgiveness is mainly for us. To relieve us of the burden.

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    • Musings&Roses says:

      I have previous post on forgiveness explaining why forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. We must draw boundaries and look out for ourselves.

      Thank you for your thoughts! I appreciate it🙏

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  4. Georgetta Head says:

    Great article! Forgiveness can be hard, but when we do forgive the rewards are great spiritually.

    Over the years, I learned that we have to be reminded we don’t wrestle with flesh and blood. When in conflict with others, it is the spirit of satan behind them trying to hurt us. Satan uses people against us for harm, that is what helps me when offended by others. 🤗👣

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  5. Georgetta Head says:

    Several years ago I taught a class on Spiritual Warfare. I used teaching material from Pastor Tony Evan’s, which explains how the enemy, satan, attacks us, and how he uses people or circumstances in an attempt to destroy us, and to get us to doubt Father God’s goodness.

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