Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes.”
Ephesians 1:4 NLT
We are our own worst critic. As much as we have been taught to be kind to others, do we extend that same kindness to ourselves? We find it easier to forgive others when they err than forgiving our mistakes and disappointments.
One reason why we tend to overly criticise ourselves is that we hinge your identity on achievements. we believe that we are only worth it if we are perfect, proper or ’successful’. We become more concerned about how the world perceives and endorses us than how much of ourselves we actually accept.
loving yourself come easy when you attain or do the things you believe makes you who you are. It is easy to pat yourself on the back because you have performed well, behaved nicely. Said the right things.
but what happens when you miss a step and stumble? or make a bad decision? Don’t reach a goal? what do you then?
You shame yourself and harshly criticize your faults magnifying it more than it really is.
Here is the catch. The moment we attach our worth to things that can be taken away, we run the risk of losing ourselves when the situation goes awry.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. Our identity lies in something more concrete and of greater value. Christ!. We are not defined by our mistakes. It is human to slip up. We cannot get it always. We cannot please everyone. We would hurt people. It is a part of life because we are not perfect and do not know everything.
No, you didn’t know it would turn out that way and even if you did, we are humans. Humans make mistakes. And we can pick up lessons from every wrong move. We do not have to wallow in self-pity or loathing.
So if we fall, we get up, draw our lessons and keep moving. Negative experiences set the motion for transformation. It should make you better. Stop beating up yourself for that one mistake. Be kind to you.
Being kind to you is a building block to self-acceptance and growth. because you accept you for all that you are, your imperfections and strength, nothing makes you cower in shame or wish to be someone else. Once you attain this level of thinking, your confidence would soar and happiness would be your constant companion.
So above all that you do in this world, be kind to yourself and to your heart. Treat yourself with love, pamper your body with care and give yourself an abundance of grace.
God doesn’t make mistakes. And He made you.
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.”
Psalms 139:13-14 NLT
He knows about our weakness, which is why He promised to be our strength when we are weak. Allow Him.
There is magic in you. You are only going to fully perform in your full potential when you stop stifling your expression with the burden of self-condemnation.
So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.”
Romans 8:1 NLT
Apply techniques such as Constructive self-reflection, Reflect on how you can be better. Instead of being critical (I am so disorganized. I will never be successful), Say, It is okay I missed the deadline, I worked hard and would make it the next time. Instead of ’I am so mean, I keep yelling, Say, I lost my temper, I would try to be more patient next time so I won’t yell.
positive affirmations – Speak loving words over your self.
Practice Self -care and appreciate the simple joys. It would keep you on track.
Relax. You are good enough. You are doing your best. In time, your efforts would pay off.
It is well with you
You are loved💜💙💛